Table of Contents

Introduction

Part I: He’s Not Just Lazy

  • Chapter 1: Let me Reintroduce You to Your Son
  • Chapter 2: Shifting Bodies, Shifting Minds
  • Chapter 3: If I only had a brain
  • Chapter 4: Leap Before You Look
  • Chapter 5: Big Boys Don’t Cry
  • Chapter 6: Too Cool For School

Part II: From Conflict to Change: The Seeds of Motivation

  • Chapter 7: The Paradoxical Response and the Plot for False Independence
  • Chapter 8: Putting the Self Back in Self-Control
  • Chapter 9: Autonomy---A  New Way Forward
  • Chapter 10: How to Stop Rescuing Your Son and Start Supporting His Autonomy
  • Chapter 11: Helicopters, Lawnmowers, and Drones: Why parents control their kids
  • Chapter 12: I think I can
  • Chapter 13: Connection

Appendix:

  • Homework Predictor
  • Backwards Planner
  • The Decision Grid
  • Exploring Values
  • The Goal Setter
  • Worry Log
  • Thought Journal
  • Suggested Reading:
  • Notes